The kind of love you create

Tonight my heart is bestowed with feelings that bow down to the greatness of God and the everlasting love and gratefulness one could ever feel.

Have you ever wondered the kind of love that you create among the closest friends that you’ve ever had? You know how they say, “If a friendship lasts longer than 7 years, it will last a lifetime.”  But can anyone ever define the kind of love you gave and have for the people around you? What makes you love a person?

Hidden depression – it is hard to identify through oneself but somehow easy to recognise by the closest people around you. Lately, I’ve had a couple of my closest friends who are silently undergoing through this stage in their life and at times,  being a friend, it is hard for me to reach out to them – for the denial stage for some of them, prolongs till only time will tell.

And some things can’t be forced. Moving pass the stage of denial to the acceptance stage is a long process that differs through individuals. It takes time, prayers and patience for them to be enlightened and one thing is for sure, we can never help a person if they are not ready to help themselves first.

But it is hard. It is hard for me as a friend to see someone who is close to me going through this stage in their life. Sometimes, I feel helpless and then I wonder to myself, “Is this how it feels like to love someone you really care? To feel their pain and to get them out of that pain? Is this the highest form of love we can ever have for someone?”

Tonight, a dear friend of mine opened up about her struggles. I’ve always felt it coming but it was never the right time or situation to talk about it. But tonight, my question about the kind of love you have towards a friend was answered.

It’s the kind of love that you feel warmth when you see her cry. It denotes the trust and realization that this intimate moment is one that you both will remember till end of time.

It’s the kind of love where you knew her tears were tears of fears and trust. And I was there to witness her cries.

It’s the kind of love that all you ever wanted is to see her shine through this phase in life and bring back that sunshine in her life – no matter how hard it’s gonna take.

It’s the kind of love that creates a constant remembrance of God’s greatness and blessings in our life. How love is nothing without God’s love and how she’s not here in my life without God’s will.

At the end of the day, it’s not hard to make a difference in people’s life. It’s a matter of being present and having a sincere heart.

What if I was a tree? 
I would be the tree that shelter the vulnerable
The tree that feel the fears and see the tears 
The tree who knows the truth about them
To be the constant that they need

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We have an irrational fear of nothing

It’s not easy seeing your loved ones slowly caving in into their useless self. It’s not easy to hear words that ends up with death and no way out.

Head in the clouds

We live in the age and time where we are expected to suddenly grow up and know things. Not only in terms of building a career but also in living life as an adult. However, for some individuals it may seem easy to open up about all these fears of living a life but for some, it has never been easy to express these melancholy thoughts. In fact, most of us are not even aware of the existent of these thoughts because we tend to not want to deal with it. Or we don’t feel like we have the right support system to share these thoughts with. We don’t spend time with our thoughts.

We have an irrational fear of nothing.

Our thoughts affects our hearts. Negative thoughts crumble our hearts into the hopeless version of ourselves. Positive thoughts exposed our hearts to hopes and bigger things in life. These thoughts which affects our hearts eventually affect how we feel and the actions we take – just like how we will react to life events or the support systems we created for ourselves. And all these things help shape our mental health.

Doesn’t it now make more sense that understanding mental health becomes more important for an individual and the community that we are living in? Seeking knowledge and understanding mental health breaks the barrier within an individual and the others around them.

Spend more time with our thoughts and the thoughts of others so that we can start creating a support system of positive relationships that will eventually be an important contributing factor in building a positive community and resilient individuals.

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